Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Homemade Christmas gifts are terrific!

Eliza received some wonderful homemade Christmas presents from her grandparents this year. Nana Cathy made Eliza her very own Raggedy Ann doll. It's really cute, and almost as big as Eliza herself! Eliza likes running her fingers through Raggedy Ann's hair.



Grandma Jan has made and decorated toy chests for each of her grandchildren, and this year she made one for Eliza. It's decorated in a traditional Scandinavian Rosemåling style that we think is absolutely gorgeous. Unfortunately we weren't able to fit it in the (extremely full!) car to bring back from Georgia with us after Christmas, but it's safe at Grandma and Grandpa's house for now and we'll retrieve it as soon as we can!



Sunday, January 8, 2012

Eliza's first Christmas (kinda)

While this wasn't Eliza's first Christmas, it was her first Christmas "at home". Which is definitely the best kind! Plus, since Eliza's original due date was December 27, this Christmas should have been her first - so we treated it as her first Christmas as much as we could.

Here's another "then and now" picture comparison - Eliza with the Christmas stocking her Nana made for her last year. Yes, that's really the same stocking (and the same Eliza) in both pictures!


Although Eliza isn't a huge fan of road trips so far, she was nonetheless very happy to be free to travel and visit her extended family instead of vice versa. We were able to get away to Georgia for several weeks which gave Eliza the chance to celebrate Christmas with each side of the family.
 



Of course, at 15 months old (almost a year adjusted) Eliza didn't really understand what the fuss was about. But she was happy to see her relatives, fascinated by all the decorations and excitement, and of course any opportunity to rip up some paper was an opportunity worth seizing!



All in all, it was a great "first" Christmas for Eliza and we couldn't have wished for a better one!

Monday, December 5, 2011

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Sunday, December 4, 2011

Then and now

Just wanted to share a couple of "then and now" pictures showing how Eliza's grown over the last year.

First, here's Eliza's silhouette from when she first came home compared to at her birthday:

She hardly even looks like the same baby, does she? She looks so much less like a "baby" and more like a "kid" now too. We have both silhouettes side-by-side on the wall at our house, and I plan to add a new one every year.


And second, here's Eliza with Santa last year and this year:


Yes, that's her underneath the blanket Heather's holding (she'd just had her laser eye surgery which is why she's covered up). Still in the hospital, still hooked up to all sorts of wires and tubes running off the left edge of the picture, and still so tiny!




How far she's come - sitting up with almost no support, having close to a full head of hair, weighing almost 20 pounds, and having SIX teeth now (not pictured - she's shy about showing them off still)! What a kid!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Survivor

In honor of Prematurity Awareness Month

I've always had a problem with referring to Eliza as a "miracle baby!" but really didn't put much time into thinking about it (most brain power over the last year has been reserved for more important things, like not going insane!) It just rubbed me the wrong way somehow. Lately I've been giving it a little more thought and I think I have a better understanding of my response.The spark of life, a baby born at 40 weeks healthy, a person falling from a building and landing unscathed - those I would call miracles. But a baby born at barely more than half her intended gestation, sole survivor of her siblings, staring down and fighting death every day for months? No, I would call that something else. A survivor.  I think Eliza deserves the credit for being alive and for doing as well as she is now. (as does her very hard-working medical team.) She is the toughest person I know. She fights incredibly hard for every single hard-won step of progress she makes. She is the only person I know that has had 6 surgeries, spent 162 days in the hospital before being discharged with a 10-page summary containing 37 separate diagnoses, did it all starting at only 1lb 4oz and has come out the other side thriving. Eliza and babies like her are tough, resilient, survivors.

I am so proud to have her as my daughter.




(I just thought of another miracle..how on earth Glenn and I managed to create such an amazingly strong person!)

Monday, November 14, 2011

"A Child in Time"

Today's reading assignment for Prematurity Awareness Month is a New Yorker article, "A Child in Time: New frontiers in treating premature babies". It covers a lot of ground, but the gist of it is all about the challenges, uncertainties, and medical progress surrounding premature birth, the NICU, and the eventual prognosis for such children.

It's difficult for me to read articles like this - just as with the Micro-Preemie Power comic we linked earlier this month, there's enough commonality between our story and the stories of the preemies here that it gives me something like PTSD flashbacks to read it. Nonetheless, it's worth reading.

Some excerpts that spoke to me in particular:

How far the NICU has come in fifty years:

On August 7, 1963, when a second son was born to President and Mrs. Kennedy (...) delivered five and a half weeks early, by Cesarean section, and weighed four pounds ten and a half ounces. (...) Baby Patrick died, thirty-nine hours and twelve minutes after his birth. The Times later reported, “The attending physicians certified to a diagnosis of prematurity and hyaline membrane disease . . . a lung disorder that takes the lives of about half of the 50,000 babies who contract it every year.” (...) [Now, 50 years later,] “Survival at thirty-two weeks’ gestational age is nearly a hundred per cent.”


About the uncertainties of a "Web-based algorithmic calculator, which allows a doctor to enter the premature infant’s characteristics and find its chances of death and disability":

[A 24-week triplet boy's] chance of death was fifty-three per cent; of death or profound neurodevelopmental impairment seventy-one per cent; of death or moderate to severe impairment eighty-five per cent. “Every baby is unique, and every family is unique,” Martin said. (...) Although the algorithm was designed to provide estimates, often it actually reinforces the uncertainty of outcomes. (...) [A picture of this boy today] shows a smiling first grader, now six and a half years old. (...) One of the drawbacks of the algorithm is that the prediction of cognitive and other neurodevelopmental abnormalities relies on testing at eighteen months. (...) Early testing can frighten parents by highlighting developmental limitations that later resolve. On the other hand, it can give false reassurance when a baby tests well at eighteen months and later develops A.D.H.D. or delayed language skills, which are the two most common late-onset effects of prematurity.


On the loss of a 24-week preemie:

“I’m not really into who has the worst story, because there is always a worse story,” she told me. “But I’m so grateful for those days we had. I didn’t at the time realize how important that month was. But now I know. You don’t realize when you are pregnant how fast you start planning. You don’t realize all the dreams that you have for the child. Those days do mean something."


Go. Read the whole article. You'll be glad you did.

Sunday, November 13, 2011

Sitting Chatterbox

Eliza's been a real chatterbox this weekend. Who knows if it's going to last or if it's just a temporary phase, but it's been great to hear her babbling happily away. Lots of "gu" and "eth" and "ef" and "ba" syllables. At one point she and Heather were having kind of a back and forth "conversation" with "ba" and "bo" sounds, which was really cute and pretty funny. Dumb me for not getting any of it on video - hopefully I'll manage it next time.

The other thing that we've really noticed this weekend is how much better she's getting at sitting. She's still a long way from sitting up by herself, and all things considered still prefers to lie on her back, but when she's set upright and given something to hold her interest, she can stay up unsupported for 30+ seconds before tipping over, and can even wobble from side to side a bit and still stay up. Serious progress!